Well, I'll try to make it brief. I met C and Shaniqua in the summer of 2004. I had moved to start college and had to find a job in their city. I had been dating a good guy at the time and was not looking to fall in love with someone else.
Fast forward a little bit to fall of 2004. I had gotten to know C pretty well because we worked together more than I worked with Shaniqua. They were engaged and had a little girl. She was adorable! Bug stole my heart right away.
I heard from work gossip that Shaniqua had cheated on C with someone we worked with. At the time I felt bad, but was still with my good guy so didn't really take much interest. I guess things like this had happened before(more work gossip) and C was tired of to trying to make it work. He told her he was leaving her. Shaniqua cut her arms all up in front of Bug. C had her put in the hospital for three days for observation. She came out, she was on meds(she had been before too for depression issues), and C decided he just couldn't do it.
In the winter of 2004 she tried several more times to kill herself. C and I were getting closer but it was only because he didn't have a lot of family support at that time. Shaniqua also learned she was pregnant. She told C the baby was his, the baby wasn't his, it could be his, she really wasn't sure who's it was. C told her that he would be there for her but they would not be getting back together.
Late winter of 2004 the good guy and I broke up. School, work, & the long distance driving was taking too much of a toll on our relationship.
January of 2005 Shaniqua took off down south with Bug and her unborn baby. Didn't even let C know until she was already down there. For four long months he was a shattered mess. His heart was broken. He placed papers for full custody soon after she left. She told him she was never coming back up because he wouldn't be with her. For that four months he was so lost. He cried for his daughter almost everyday. It was during that time we became best friends.
Finally, she did come back up. She missed the court date for custody of their daughter. He won full custody. Yes, technically by default but he also got to tell the judge the whole story.
August of 2005 Sunshine was born. C and I had been fighting feelings for eachother for a long time. We didn't want to be a couple because of how awful that would look. He didn't want me to be labeled the "homewrecker", even though that home had been wrecked long before me.
Sunshine ended up being C's little boy. And he went after custody of him too. This time Shaniqua did come to court, with her new boyfriend. She told the judge she thought it was best that Sunshine live w/his father.
C and I finally decided it was time to stop fighting it and just be happy. I moved in pretty quickly and we got engaged pretty quickly too.
Shaniqua and C went through a lot of meditations. The courts kept giving her chance after chance because afterall she was the kids' mother.
Shaniqua was given supervised visitation. It was only ordered for one day a week because the other day was full. She was supposed to keep calling and making sure she was on the waiting list for the other day to open up. She never did. She got pregnant with new guy's baby. Lord, did I feel sorry for him.
She had her baby. A cute little girl. The kids were very excited to have a baby sister. She seemed to be getting her life on track. The boyfriend seemed to be good for her. We told her she still had to go to supervised but we would try a couple non-supervised and see how it went. Not good. So we backed off.
Her and the boyfriend started getting rocky. She stopped going to some visits or cut out early. We heard from a member of her family she was planning on leaving to go south again. The boyfriend took her to court and they now have shared custody of their child. She left for the south without even telling Bug and Sunshine.
That was two and a half years ago. She hasn't seen the kids since then. There's a lot of other stuff that I've cut out of this blog because I don't want to cram your head up with too much. But for the past 2 and a half years I'm all these kids have known as mom. They know they have another mommy. We do talk about her some. Sunshine doesn't remember her at all and Bug barely remembers her.
I've been "stepmommy" since Sunshine was about six months old. They are my world and I love them soooo much.
Any questions? Feel free to ask me! :) Sorry if this seems a little scattered. Just trying to give you a basic background!